“We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future.”
– George Bernard Shaw
Today, we are progressively living in an ‘it is not my fault’ society. When someone is confronted with wrong doing or not delivering on a promise, the response is the inevitable ‘it is not my fault’. Shifting blame and not taking responsibility as become a chronic disease of our age.
We tend to blame others or our circumstances for our shortcomings and lack of drive. Life did not give us the lucky breaks that others got and that is why they are successful and we are not. But is it really life that is at fault? Consider the example of two people playing on the same piano. One plays it correctly and produces beautiful harmonious sounds while another plays it falsely and the same piano produces utter ugliness. In the same way, whether life produces discord or harmony, is up to the player.
But what about those things that happen to us over which we have no control? In life, things do happen over which we have no control, but we do have control over how we are going to respond to them. If you are standing by the edge of a swimming pool and somebody pushes you in the water, then of course it was not your fault that you ended up in the water. But only you are to blame if you stay in the water.